Before we go any further, I want to assure you that we all cross boundaries with our kids at one time or another—we’re only human!The important thing is to be aware of it when it happens and to refrain from making it a fixed pattern or a way of life.This means that we do too much for them, and “get in their box” instead of staying in our own.When this happens, we’ve forgotten where we end and where our child begins. When you become nervous about your child’s success or ability to handle things in life (whether it’s in school, with friends, in sports, or with his or her ability to behave appropriately), it might feel as if you’re alleviating stress by jumping in and taking control instead of letting your child work things out for himself.
Before you know it, your teen may be entering the dating world.
” What parents might not be aware of, in all these instances, is that they’re operating from anxiety in some way.
The best advice here is to try not to react from your emotions, but instead, stay in your parental role and respond from your principles.
They are wired to test us and see how far they can go; it’s in their nature.
As parents, we sometimes cross boundaries ourselves in our attempts to fix things for them.