Or is he or she going to start sleeping over every night and become part of your family? ’ ‘Are they going to feel sad that the man in our home isn’t their dad?Or, perhaps, will your relationship be somewhere in between? ’ Meanwhile, they had been begging me to have him sleepover. I actually ended up sleeping in my son’s bed with him, and let my boyfriend take my bed! I realize that is the ultimate extreme of being overprotective, but I have seen the other extreme countless times—the mom (or dad) who lets a boyfriend/girlfriend of 2 weeks practically move in, and the selfishness and stupidity of it really makes me cringe.
Even when they do choose, they may find their parents’ attention to be divided and not necessarily focused on them.
The parents worked hard, were highly organized, and dispatched instructions and discipline to her as a matter of course.
She told me in private therapy that she was convinced her mother didn’t like her.
One of the most complicated aspects of dating after divorce with kids is deciding when and how often your new guy (or girl) will be around your kids.
Is it going to be one of those relationships that you keep separate from your kids and only get together when the kids are with your ex?