Either you notice that he starts to pull away and seems less engaged (commonly known as “the fade away”), or he just vanishes (a phenomenon known as “ghosting”). When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can usually pinpoint the reason.
Maybe he was too desperate, not intellectually stimulating, too quiet, too loud, too boring, too boisterous–she usually knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if asked.
At this point, instead of him feeling like he’s connecting with you, he feels like you’re trying to get something out of him.
Maybe it’s reassurance or validation, or maybe just more of the feeling of being OK.
But it’s there and it comes across, even in the slightest ways.
When asked, many guys will say they don’t know why they were suddenly turned off … During the first few dates with a new guy, your vibe is typically pretty laid-back and easygoing. Maybe you hang out a few more times, but then something changes. Here is why this situation is so confusing for most women. Numbers are exchanged, flirty texting ensues, and eventually you go on a date … The chemistry is strong, you connect, you have fun. Now you start to get really excited…could this be it?When this happens, you are no longer in the here and now, seeing the situation for what it is.Instead, your mind is focusing on what it be and that’s when it becomes a problem.