I told him that, regardless of what the future holds, I won’t regret any of the time we’ve had together because I love him.So I realized that I said I’d wait for him, but I still find myself trying to pressure him to take the next step. You know how to get your man to chase you and make you feel wanted. And it all depends on you making him keep up the chase. They love pursuing you, and they love the challenge and tension pursuing you brings. Long-term relationships and even marriage are what many women hope for, and knowing how to maintain the chase is essential to keep the romance and passion alive and blooming long after the thrill of being in love dies down. Discovery after discovery is guaranteed to make you fall in love with each other more. It’s all passion and romance and love, the stuff great romance novels are made of. There’s no doubt you still love each other — but the spark has dulled and he's stopped chasing you like he used to. Passion and romance have turned comfortable and boring, and there are times you feel you are being taken for granted. You get scared and do a knee-jerk reaction: Try and pull him closer. There are ways to make him stay on top of his game and be the alpha male you first became attracted to. Men love two things: the chase, and the thrill of the chase. I have come up with these methods to ensure you get to maintain the chase in the relationship.So while you might think, “Yeah, but she may have wasted three years on a guy who won’t marry her,” you’d be mistaken.
But when he moved this past July, he let me decorate/organize his kitchen which he said was big for him because he likes to be in control of that.
By being patient and not putting pressure on her boyfriend, she allowed it to develop into a healthy, loving relationship that has a chance of going the distance.
Had she not taken this stance, her boyfriend would have bailed, and she would not have the chance of going the distance.
Their girlfriends were all 3-4 years older, and they were feeling far more biological pressure than I suspect that you do. Thus, the only leverage you have is to walk away from him and see if he follows. These are just things that you might do to avoid breaking up, but they don’t ensure that you’ll be together forever. You talk about your boyfriend’s “professional priorities” that prevent him from proposing. My best friend is getting married this week even though he’s quitting his safe job as a lawyer to start his own company. Hopefully by dating, she -and eventually he- will see her real values.
And yet, despite their ticking clocks, they hung in there patiently, just like you… That’s when they decided to leave if they didn’t get a ring. At the 3-year mark, there’s literally no new information that your boyfriend is trying to gather about you. If you want to be married, it’s time for him to step up and marry you. I assure you, if your guy wanted to marry you, it would happen.