What you’re actually showing her is that you’re super-touchy on first date. Avoid the pitfall: “On a first date, touch should be limited and only natural, friendly, and warm—not sexual,” says Carole Lieberman, M. In other words, it’s fine to take her hand to help her out of your car, or put your hand on her lower back to lead her through a crowded restaurant.But don’t drape your arm around her neck and hold her close the entire time.to be cool.” Avoid the pitfall: This one is easy: Curb the cursing habit now, in anticipation of all your future first dates (and job interviews, and other non-sailing situations), Dr. It’s too difficult to just turn off a habit for a few hours, so eliminate four-letter words from your everyday vocabulary.If you spend the date dropping names, as in: “I know the guy who created Angry Birds,” or “I text Kanye West,” then you sound like a try-hard who needs celebrity clout to impress her. ) And if you tell long stories about your friends and their shenanigans, you’ll bore her to death.
“Although money is often on people’s minds, it makes her uncomfortable to hear you talk about it when you’re just getting to know each other,” Dr. “She doesn’t want to hear that you’re worried about it, or to hear you bragging about how much you have.” Avoid the pitfall: “Just cross money off the topic list completely and casually pay for the date like a gentleman,” Dr. Arrogance is really just your insecurity showing, Dr. You may feel like you need to emphasize the parts of your background that scream “elite” to impress her.Avoid the pitfall: If you tend to get too giddy, plan a date with a distraction so that you’re not on the spot for suave conversation the entire time, Dr. Some good options to take the pressure off: a play or a concert.You’ll still have the opportunity to talk, just not as much.“This is the impression you want to give.” Avoid the pitfall: The easiest way to save money—without looking miserly—is to plan the date yourself, and only take her to places where you know you can afford the dessert menu.Or get creative: A hiking trip is more fun than dinner and doesn’t cost anything.