Wouldn’t it be better to take a few months and think it over clearly instead of spending years in relationships that don’t work?After careful consideration, my list is pretty simple: Is Single Open And Honest Educated Flexible/Open Minded – Easily Adapts To Change Has Great Listening And Conflict Resolution Skills Knows What She Wants Female Available – Able To Fit Me Into Her Life Has Compatible Goals Loves And Appreciates Me For Who I Am After I made this list, it only took about a year for me to find what I feel is the perfect person for me.” then you two are “married” according to that definition. If you definitely need a wedding, then a wedding would be part of your definition of a marriage. Imagine the following scenario: You excitedly asked the other person, “Will you marry me? Fill in the blank: Here are the qualities I need in a husband / wife: Like the definition of marriage above, this list will help you determine what you are looking for, so that you spend a minimum amount of time pursuing the wrong people.It lets you determine quickly who to ask and what to ask.Partly, it’s because the list allowed me to filter out people very fast.It only takes a few questions to figure out if someone has a decent idea of what they want in life, so that the amount of time invested in “rejecting” a potential candidate is highly minimized.
As a guy who has faced his fair share of rejections and successes in terms of dating, there are several observations I’d like to share about finding the right person to marry.
Fill in the blank: This is what marriage means to me: When you’re clear on what you want, we can take a look at what you can do to accomplish that! Does your definition of marriage require an actual wedding? Can you imagine the emotional pain and legal headaches?
Maybe you wrote something like “Two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together”. You need to be clear on what you expect from a husband/wife, so that when he/she says “Yes!! The only way you can do that is if you know what you’re asking!!
With every success or “failure” in this area, something new and interesting comes up.
Please be aware though that I am currently in love, so my analysis may be somewhat biased.